| Reno Nevada Depression Chat Room | |||
|
For instance; My band played at this bar last weekend, and the waitress already knew me from the last time we played there. Right off the bat she was real happy to see me and every time our paths crossed she was touching me ( I didn't touch her back, though).
However she never got emotionally into what I said, I feel that all I did was give her a hard time. toward the end of the night when we were packing up, I was trying to get her to think it would be her idea to hang out at her place after we got done (another thing that is a problem for me... ??she thinks it's her idea??), but this never happened. I would very much like to see how all this works, but just can't seem to put it together. Can you please help me understand? |
|||
|
It’s become even more confusing for men today because at least when a few generations ago, a man dated a woman, it was usually with marriage in mind (a mutual immediate goal for both the woman and the man) so the dinner, flowers, etc, could be seen as a token of respect for a woman and her commitment to a future family and children. There was also this image of women as being more innocent and moral than men. Society has changed since then, big time. The family unit has changed for most people as well. Women’s traditional roles have changed. Why are men still treating women as if it’s 1951? What exactly are those chocolates and flowers for? |
|||
|
|||
|
home up |
|||
|
|||
|
I can remember when I thought that the proper way to act on a date was to talk about socially acceptable topics, act sterile and quiet, and generally try to make sure that she got whatever she wanted.
Oh, was this a huge mistake. Generally speaking, women are BORED TO DEATH BY THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR. When you meet a girl for a cup of tea or go out to dinner, it's time to have FUN, not to be her personal ass kisser! Playing it safe and kissing up to her is a sure way to get either an expensive relationship or a woman who won't call you back. TALKING ABOUT BORING THINGS Don't talk about your job and your family! BORING! Guys who are trying to convince women that they're *nice* talk about their families (If you really want to be a loser, carry pictures around with you and show them off.). Talking about families is *courtship* behavior, and it will put her into the old *this guy is boring* frame of mind. Unless you're related to John F. Kennedy or someone even more interesting, keep the family history to yourself! BEING BORING |
|||